Many of us go on holiday to decompress, reset, and reenergise, and come back to our own realities feeling refreshed. Having time to pause, exhale and release, is incredibly important. However we don't have to wait for the next holiday, to experience this.
The audio below, will allow to go to a place in your mind that has has always allowed you to slow down and reconnect with yourself. A few of my favourite spaces, usually involve a bench and somewhere green. For me, this not only symbolises stillness and peace, but also a space that welcomes, whoever you are, however you feel, with whatever you need from that space. There are no rules or expectations, just freedom to be.
Take a moment to think of your favourite calm space as you listen to this visualisation.
The nerves, The Critic and Camomile Tea
The louder that voice got, the lower my confidence felt, the more vulnerable I felt and I wanted to go home. How can I talk about confidence and resilience when I'm not feeling either at the moment?!!
I have worked hard over the years, to get to a place where 'my own skin' and me have learned to become friends. But two days beforehand, worthy, confident and enough, came in a unfamiliar package that had not been addressed to me.
Six years ago, I found myself five years into a job that was making me ill. I was stressed, exhausted and losing weight, and as much as I'd heard the “you're lucky to even have a job”, “it’s the wrong time to be looking for a new job” etc., I couldn’t shift the unhappiness, longing and frustration that I felt. The job I once loved had become unrecognisable, and I was screaming inside.
Six months later, I finally found the courage to apply for new jobs, and was offered a post in a similar field. Momentary delight soon followed acute concern. Alarm bells crept in, and I was confused; why do I feel the same way?
My concerns were short lived as fate played a hand. Two weeks after I'd started my new role, the company went into liquidation, and I was out of a job.
After initial numbness, blaming and cursing, I was overcome with an incredible emotion that I had not experience for some time; relief. Yes relief.
Her actions are well intentioned, and she is in fact, wonderful at keeping me safe. But, sometimes she gets in my way.
Imagine living each day with the recognition that your authentic nature, vulnerability, passion, creativity, and everything you are effortlessly, is not only enough, but amazing. What a release. What a relief. There was nothing wrong with being you in the first place.
But what happens when the people closest to you don’t want you to change? They are comfortable with the masks that you’ve learned to wear so well. They like the edited version of you. Perhaps acceptance of yourself, highlights disapproval within themselves, and they resent you. What if being your authentic self, means some relationships change for the worse?