Being in your current role feels awful, monotonous, unfulfilling. You don’t feel valued, acknowledged, respected challenged or inspired. Or maybe it’s not ‘awful’, and that’s part of the problem.  It’s just long passed its expiry date, boring, comfortable, and you can do it with your eyes closed. But you don’t quite ‘hate it enough’ to leave yet’.
 
So you’re still here. The same place you’ve always been. Because the next your next role/career has to be the right one.
 
You don’t want to make the wrong decision. You can’t be sure it’s the right decision. You need to be certain it’s the right decision. So you don’t make one, and you stay where you are.

You may be in a job or career that you’ve outgrown, lost all passion for, and you’ve been contemplating leaving for some time. You may have even got as far weighing up your outgoings with your incomings to see if you can afford it. And there seems to be possibilities. You’ve devised a plan of how you could quit, what you’d need to do first, and then next, and then after that. Part – time work, your savings, your investments, some traning, and other options open up more possibilities.

You could do this…
 
But… You are worried about not having enough money.
 
"I won’t have enough money to live on"
"I wont be able to pay my bills"
"I wont be able to afford my lifestyle"
"What if there isn’t enough money"
 
The first question to ask yourself. Are these statements actually true?
 
After you have done your budgeting, looked at your resources and you have a plan of action, are these statements actually true?
 
If the answer is yes, there is more exploration to be done regarding your plan of action and solutions to balance your dreams within your current financial capacity.
 
However if these statements are actually false…. If your fears about money are unfounded - it is fear, not money that is influencing your decisions.
 
Beneath your fears about not having enough money are often fears you have about yourself.
 
Here are some examples:
 
I fear I’m being unrealistic for go after my dreams.
I fear what other people will think of me if I leave this job.
I fear I don’t have what it takes to make this work.
I fear letting my family down
I fear I will fail.
I fear I’m not good enough to have what I want.

It is human nature to avoid what we don’t want or fear, instead of seeking what we want. While we avoid fear, to feel safe, we avoid the possibility of our dreams.

Choosing the riskier option, does mean opening yourself up to a level of uncertainty. Maybe financial security is something that you hold highly. At this moment in time, how much risk feels comfortable to you?
How does that risk measure up to staying where you are? How can you look differently at this risk so that it feels intentional? What is guaranteed that makes your dreams highly likely to happen? What is it about you that you know there’s no lack of demand of?

Think of a time in your life when you felt like you were about to loose everything (Or similar). Make a list of all the fears that you had when things felt the worst. Now look at this list. How many of these fears actually came true? If there are a few that did, what is it that you did to get through that situation to where you where today. Knowing that you got through that situation, what would you do differently if it happened again?

If you have enough money to pay your bills, put food on the table, provide for your family and have an active life, what is it really that you fear.

I’m a massive daydreamer and I love having my head in the clouds.  It is very entertaining up there. However, there are times when my head feels too full and busy. Even when I have created the physical the space for solitude and reflection, my mind is just well, noisy. There is no space for any more information and no room left for me. While I’m at it, life is still happening around me and I’m unable pay it much attention.

I heard about a tool called the Betty Erickson Technique at a recent retreat I’d been to. Betty, the wife of Psychologist and Hypnotherapist Milton Erickson, developed this technique as a form of self-hypnosis that works by observing and articulating in your immediate environment, things you can see, hear and feel. It has been used successfully to aid relaxation, relieve insomnia and reduce stress.
 
Used in a mindful way, this very simple tool can be used direct your attention to the present; raising awareness of your surroundings and encouraging you to engage with them. Stating what you notice out loud provides the added advantage of creating some space from your over-active mind. (Try to think and talk at the same time and see what happens!)
 
Using this tool while engaging in an activity of something that you love, also reaps the benefit of heightening your experience, attention and appreciation of it.
 
The picture above was taken at the last place where I used this tool as I love to walk, especially in nature. My script went something like this.:

​I can hear – birds singing
I can hear – the leaves rustling
I can hear – the wind whistling
I can hear – the crash of water as the geese jump in for a swim.
 
I can see – orange russet and green leaves
I can see – the suns reflection on the lake
I can see – leaves tumbling past me in the wind
I can see – oak trees more than 15 feet high
 
I can feel – the cold air against my face
I can feel – my scarf around my neck.
I can feel – my heart beating calmly
I can feel – the heaviness in my arms and legs

​Take a pause and simply observe, then repeat with three different things you can see, hear and feel and then one.
 
Like this
 
      I am now aware that I hear ________ (3x’s)
      I am now aware that I see _________  (3x's)

      I am now aware that I feel _________ (3x's) 
      I am now aware that I hear ________ (2x's)
      I am now aware that I see _________  (2x's)

      I am now aware that I feel _________ (2x's) 
      I am now aware that I hear _________(1x)
      I am now aware that I see _________   (1x)

      I am now aware that I feel _________  (1x)
 

And