You may be in a job or career that you’ve outgrown, lost all passion for, and you’ve been contemplating leaving for some time. You may have even got as far weighing up your outgoings with your incomings to see if you can afford it. And there seems to be possibilities. You’ve devised a plan of how you could quit, what you’d need to do first, and then next, and then after that. Part – time work, your savings, your investments, some traning, and other options open up more possibilities.
You could do this…
But… You are worried about not having enough money.
"I won’t have enough money to live on"
"I wont be able to pay my bills"
"I wont be able to afford my lifestyle"
"What if there isn’t enough money"
The first question to ask yourself. Are these statements actually true?
After you have done your budgeting, looked at your resources and you have a plan of action, are these statements actually true?
If the answer is yes, there is more exploration to be done regarding your plan of action and solutions to balance your dreams within your current financial capacity.
However if these statements are actually false…. If your fears about money are unfounded - it is fear, not money that is influencing your decisions.
Beneath your fears about not having enough money are often fears you have about yourself.
Here are some examples:
I fear I’m being unrealistic for go after my dreams.
I fear what other people will think of me if I leave this job.
I fear I don’t have what it takes to make this work.
I fear letting my family down
I fear I will fail.
I fear I’m not good enough to have what I want.
It is human nature to avoid what we don’t want or fear, instead of seeking what we want. While we avoid fear, to feel safe, we avoid the possibility of our dreams.
Choosing the riskier option, does mean opening yourself up to a level of uncertainty. Maybe financial security is something that you hold highly. At this moment in time, how much risk feels comfortable to you?
How does that risk measure up to staying where you are? How can you look differently at this risk so that it feels intentional? What is guaranteed that makes your dreams highly likely to happen? What is it about you that you know there’s no lack of demand of?
Think of a time in your life when you felt like you were about to loose everything (Or similar). Make a list of all the fears that you had when things felt the worst. Now look at this list. How many of these fears actually came true? If there are a few that did, what is it that you did to get through that situation to where you where today. Knowing that you got through that situation, what would you do differently if it happened again?
If you have enough money to pay your bills, put food on the table, provide for your family and have an active life, what is it really that you fear.
Fear of making the wrong decision